Yesterday brought some of the best news I’ve heard in a very long time: my sister is finally engaged! After getting to know her boyfriend Andy for the past four years, I can’t think of two people more perfect for each other (not the least because he makes fabulous ice cream). This news got my head reeling with millions of wedding ideas for her and the opportunity to be involved in a wedding without having to actually make a lifetime commitment.
I was never one of those girls who has dreamed about her big wedding day from the moment I was born. However, I won’t lie that wedding ideas were about the only reason I joined Pinterest. And watching countless TLC shows like “Say Yes to the Dress” and “Four Weddings” may have inspired a few ideas for my champagne color scheme and a Snow White-inspired dress. But this day will be about my sister and she, thankfully, is much more low maintenance.
After hearing story after story of people my age and even younger getting engaged, it sometimes makes me feel like I’m running out of time. Then I remember that I’m only 19 and not pregnant. For now, I can sit back and watch something truly happy unfold.
I admire my sister more than almost anyone. One thing that I’ve noticed these past four years is that no matter how much our parents, our extended family and, let’s face it, myself, prodded at every available opportunity about when she was getting engaged, she and Andy took things at their own pace. She knew what she wanted from the relationship and didn’t settle for anything less. And that’s probably what makes me happier than anything about the big news, is that I know it’s what she really wants and what is going to be in the best interest of our family.
I’m not usually one for giving “my hero” speeches, but this time I think it is well deserved. And I think it shows that female role models don’t have to be bra-burning feminists or severe man-haters. Sometimes what is really admirable is settling down and doing the best thing for yourself, knowing that you really deserve it.